Valentine’s Day is a Mom Job

Mom DayLong ago and far away, back in 1997, when my husband and I first met….

I was 24 years old, making a 24 year old salary, leading a new restaurant opening in Michigan. This one was over Valentine’s Day, so I went out and “splurged” on the little cardboard Valentines and hand wrote a little note to each trainer on that opening. My would be (though we weren’t even dating then) husband caught me doing it and said, “You’re gonna be such a great mom someday.”

And isn’t that the truth? Somehow, the job of getting Valentine’s Day whatevers together for children and their classmates is decidedly a MOM JOB. I mean, I don’t know any Dads who take that on. It’s not even on their radar. A seasoned MOM knows you better have a plan. And by God, you better have it executed before February 12th.

Which brings me to last night. Husband is scrolling through Facebook and starts laughing. Like out loud. LOL for real. When I ask “What?”, his one word answer was “Schuck”. Well, now I must come look. Because our friend Kristin is FUNNY. Like tears in your beer, can’t catch your breath, the mishaps she gets into and the way she sees the world will keep your smile muscles in excellent shape.

So this is what had Mark laughing so hard….

Target already said adios to VDay and helloooo to Easter.
Target already said adios to VDay and helloooo to Easter.

Well wouldn’t you know it… Kristin’s post reminded me of the Valentine’s purchase I had made a few weeks ago, which had been sitting in the Target bag since. Yikes! Class parties are today. Someone had to get those suckers ready.

While divvying them up and writing names, I started thinking about how Valentine’s Day is a mom job. All the moms I know. Working moms, stay at home moms – all the moms.

And that’s when I really went down the rabbit hole and started thinking about the kids who don’t have moms right now. Most especially, kids who are missing their mom for the first time this year. Because you know, even if that Daddy is doing all the things that their Mom used to do, it is highly highly unlikely that he managed to do THIS too.

This morning, I dropped off kidlet number three and saw his eyes wander to the mommies walking their kids in today – arms laden down with boxes filled with neat rows of pinterest worthy crafts for all 26 classmates. I admit, that stung for a second. But not for long. We all do our best. We bring different strengths to this motherhood gig. Some of us are Pinterest queens. Some of us are not. But at the next stop, I did walk in with kidlet number two. Because today is Donuts with Mom at his school. And while I am sure there were some gorgeous crafts in the building, the real star was the morning breakfast with moms and kids. It set me back on the right track and made me appreciate all the love in my life.

Donuts with Mom
Me and my sweet Bobby (who probably ate five donuts this morning!)

This Valentine’s Day, I am sending some extra love to the kids who are missing their moms. And to the Dads who are trying to be all things, even in the midst of their own grief. And to my fellow mamas – who cares if you did something amazing or something fast for the class Valentines today. You did it. You love your kids and they love you. That’s enough. Happy Valentine’s Day to all.

PS – Yes, I did write names on Valentines for my kidlets. There was still homework to be done. Priorities, people. OH… and I propose 2017 is the year of Dad driven class Valentines.  Who’s with me????


  1. Kristin says

    Thanks for the shout out, Slaughter! I am so in love with the “Dad’s in charge of Valentine’s Day for 2017” and we will make this a thing next year! It will come to be known as the year Valentine expectations are reset to a normal, achievable levels again.

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